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As I write this post, I recognise that this will be the last instillation of my weekly columns until Ladies Who Launch returns from a bit of a summer hiatus Therefore, instead of focusing solely on one thing this week, I wanted to talk about a couple of the things I have been grappling with and have learnt to manage / deal with as of late. In sharing them, I am hoping that it will be something you can relate to and take some inspiration from as we part for the summer.
I have mentioned before that I work within the confinements of the concrete jungle known as the corporate world when I am not side hustling on all things coaching and wellness. Over the past 7-8 months and for much longer than that if I really think about it, I have been managing some corporate politics that have been weighing on me quite a bit. I often find that as much as I love my job, there are days I wish I didn’t have to go in, in order to avoid “bullying” and “school children cliquey behaviour” that often has me feeling quite anxious and shaken.
I find myself constantly taking the advice of being the bigger person, but in all the talk about boundaries as of late, I have been thinking about whether it is appropriate to continue swallowing the behaviour like a child who is being forced to eat their greens, while continuing to walk on egg shells in a manner where I am masking my true self or if it’s time I put my foot down and just do me, while voicing that it is about time someone or something intervened to call the behaviour out. As I continued to grapple with this all this week, I came across a quote that inspired me enough to post it on my Instagram feed…
“You’re still going to get criticised, so you might as well do whatever the F*CK you want.”
The quote left me feeling an electrifying sense of ownership for my boundaries and more importantly for the voice I know is inside of me. Then from the point at which I posted the quote I made a decision to recognise the importance of the platform and impact I want to have, while also realising that it was time to really have some conversations where I asked for some support and help to manage some of what I am dealing with, instead of trying to handle it all by “being the bigger person.”
So, I went on my merry way and ended up having some of the conversations I needed to, which led me to realise something else. As important as it is to just do you, it is equally important to surround yourself with a tribe that supports and empowers you in all you do – much like this community that we have created here through Ladies Who Launch.
In some of the experiences I am having I am surrounded by people that play a role to your face that seems supportive but then are the firsts to go behind your back in an act to bring the school yard into the professional world. And while I can recognise it, I need not focus on them and / or trying to change their behaviours, as much as I ought to be focusing on the people that support and empower me in the true sense of the words.
“Your tribe as they say, attracts your vibe.”
So, isn’t it about time we said bye-bye to those neigh-sayers and hello to those people that we know our vibe and energy need in our lives?
I think so.
So, as we sign off for the summer and a much deserved break, I want to leave you all with a challenge. As we round out the summer and begin the last 4 months of the year, let’s work on building up the confidence to own our voices (and not just in the boundary sense) and to be selfish when it comes to who we choose to spend our time with, focusing as much as we can on those that leave us on a high of positive vibes, energy and empowerment.
Remember we are all not the "one size fits all type." So it is about time we go after what we aim to unapologetically and feed our souls with what serves us.
And with that, I wish you all an incredible rest of the summer. Will be sending all the positive vibes I can as I head back to Toronto for some much-needed family time,
With love and gratitude always,
Arti, aka The Wellness Chief xx
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