What is your professional title, purpose or passion?
I am a life coach and I support women to realise the value of putting themselves first in order to live the life that they choose.I support women who feel stuck in their own life, who are unfulfilled, who have forgotten who they are because they have got so caught up in conforming to what everyone else wants for them that they put their own desires, interests and needs last.
I help women to build back up their self-worth, to regain their sense of fulfilment, to remember what it means to be them and to live a life that they approve of.
What did you want to do when you were a child and what changed?
At a very young age I wanted to be a doctor. I was brought up in an environment where doctors were seen as somewhat of an oracle and I wanted to have this accolade against my name. I was never exposed to the idea that there were many, many different jobs I could do, but actually at times I felt that my options were limited, because ‘I was a girl!’. But everything changed when I learnt that actually I did have options, many options and I could do whatever I set my mind on – even if I am a female (!!). I soon began to learn that I do have a choice, just like everyone does, and I am beyond capable of having a career doing whatever I want to do and create the exact life I want to live.
What's the best career advice you've ever been given?
Done is better than perfect.
What is the best thing about your current working environment?
I can work wherever I want. This flexibility allows me so much freedom to be wherever I need or want to be, but whilst also ensuring I can still also work on growing my business.
Where do you see yourself in five years' time?
Professionally, my goal is to grow my business by spreading the message of my work, inspiring as many people as possible to realise that they have a choice to live the life they want to if they put themselves first. I want this message to enable more people to be happier, healthier and more fulfilled. Personally, I want to spend the next 5 years relishing in new opportunities, exploring different countries and cultures. I have set up my work to enable me to build a business whilst simultaneously building life experiences and intend to make the most of it.
Tell us more about a charitable organisation or project you think is great.
In 2012, my family and I set up a charity following the sudden death of my sister from a brain haemorrhage. ‘The Natalie Kate Moss Trust’ works in partnership with Manchester University and aims to support individuals who have suffered from a brain injury through University life, whilst simultaneously supporting ground-breaking research into Stroke at the University.
The vision of the research is to improve the outcome and prevent brain haemorrhages; an area of research, which, before this partnership, had very limited resource, but is now demonstrating clear progress and advancements in the development of the research. I am really proud of the Trust, which is making ground-breaking shifts in the research into strokes.
What drives you?
Helping others understand that they have a choice to do what they want and to feel and live how they want. Because there was a time I needed to know that.
Any final comments?
You can’t control what happens to you, but you can always choose how you respond.
What does a normal day look like for you?
Every day is very different, I could be on calls with clients, recording a podcast, writing content for myself or other publications, organising/preparing for an event or talk, or working on a collaboration with other businesses. There are many different hats to be worn within my job, but that is what keeps it interesting and exciting! As a business owner there are also less glamorous days working through cost files, legal documents, contracts etc, but it all comes as part of the job, and I can’t deny the geek in me secretly likes these jobs!!
Typically, I will start my day by going to the gym. I have always been very sporty, and exercise sets my day, and my mind, up perfectly! I then work from AllBright in London, a women’s members club which champions women in business and is the most amazing space to build your network, learn and develop as a female entrepreneur.
What have you achieved that you feel most proud of?
Putting myself first. Going against the grain of a very traditional family is difficult and can create all sorts of anxieties and doubt. But alongside this I have experienced other traumas and pains in my life, only adding to my stress. Even despite all of this I decided that the only way I can not let these external factors win is by deciding that I am going to put myself first, and I am going to do what I want with my life, I am going to choose how I respond no matter what is going on around me.
Tell us about a a woman who inspires you
Many, many women inspire me for many different reasons. There are highly successful women who have gone out there and ‘done it’, who are an inspiration to me for their ‘ballsy’ nature, their ‘rigour’, their ‘determination’, their ‘strategical sense’. But quite often there are women who I meet in my day to day life who are true inspirations, who have battled adversity to get to where they are, who have challenged the norm, who have decided they want more, they want their surroundings are limiting them to. You do not have to be famous to inspire, or be running a large corporation, or be a world-class athlete, but what I have learnt is that every day we all have an opportunity to inspire and actually you never know who you may be inspiring.
What was your biggest failure?
I don’t believe we ever fail – we only learn. I therefore want to rephrase this question to “what is your biggest lesson?” and for me that is not to let other people’s limitations affect your life. Whether it is their anxieties, their stress, their own lack of drive, or limiting beliefs, never allow that to affect your ability to dream, to strive for more, to be happy, to be brave, to feel that you are enough. I have often let the limiting beliefs of others allow me to question myself, miss opportunities, deny possibilities to experience life or to grow. But always remember you are your own person, you have your own beliefs your own purpose, your own goals. You can achieve what you want, you can strive for more, you are enough.
What do you like most about yourself?
My resilience, determination and ‘can-do’ attitude.
How can we make the world more inclusive and accepting?
Speaking! Another of the biggest lessons I have learnt, and something which I speak often to my clients about is the need to be open to conversations. Often we are scared of speaking because we fear what is being said, but this ultimately creates situations of fear, anxiety and stress; damaging relationships and creating bigger struggles than what is already at hand. The more we can open up conversations, discuss our feelings, resolve our issues, our nervousness, our fears and stop them at the source, the more we will allow ourselves a chance to be happy.
What skills have been key to your journey so far?
Resilience, determination, stubbornness, perspective, awareness.